Since the moment we found out we are having another girl
I’ve always pictured them to be best friends. In my mind they would always hold
hands, play together, care for each other, and wouldn’t need anyone else. Well,
maybe that will happen in the future but it certainly hasn’t been like that for
the last 8 months.
Ariela is used to attention, an undivided attention.
During my pregnancy I kept talking to her about how she’ll be a big sister and
how much fun it’ll be to have a little one around the house. I kept pointing
out how she’ll be able to help care for her little sister and be mommy’s right
hand. And every time we talked Ariela kept changing the subject, like she didn’t
want anything to do with any of it. I say she is one smart cookie because at
that point she already figured out that parents won’t always be there for her
and she’ll need to share her parents with a baby.
When she first came to the hospital to meet her sister, I
think she was more excited to see me and not the baby. The grandparents led her to a crib to see her brand new sister
and she kind of had the look like she didn’t know what to think. She opened her
mouth and smiled and that was it! And I think that smile was more for a show
rather than her being in awe with the baby. She turned around and came to talk
to me.
The first few months she made a few attempts to feed the
baby, looked how we changed the diaper, covered her with a blanket, and that was
about it. She wasn’t into her little sister and it seemed to me like she wanted
her life as a family of three back.
When Alina was about 3-4 months Ariela wanted to be around
her little sister more. It also helped that Alina’s first smile was just for
Ariela. The big sis was very proud that the baby smiled just for her. She kept
talking about it for quite some time.
A few more months passed and Ariela wanted to “play” now.
She kept making faces and loud noises; anything to make Alina smile and laugh.
Alina didn’t need any encouragement. She loved “chasing” after Ariela around
the house, wiggling her little feet and arms, and squeaking with excitement,
craving for more play time.
Now, when Alina is 9 monhts, they still like to “chase” and
“hide” from each other. Most of the time Ariela will help with putting a
blanket on the floor for Alina to sit on. She’ll bring toys for her little sis
but sometimes takes them away after a few seconds. I have to remind her to give
at least one to Alina, otherwise, she won’t have any fun playing. Ariela will
help to watch the baby if I have to step away to the kitchen or fill up the
bath. She’ll also help with feeding while singing cute little songs to make
Alina eat more.
There was a one time accident when I thought I would burst.
I left to check on something in the kitchen and on my way
back saw Ariela trying to pick up the baby who was lying on the blanket on the
floor. She didn’t see me at first but once she turned her head and saw me, she
let go off Alina. Miss Alina fell on her back. All I can say is I am lucky we
had a very soft blanket underneath her. I am also thankful Alina wasn’t too far from the
ground, otherwise, that fall would’ve been very painful for her. I was fuming.
Ariela was afraid for a few seconds and just stared at me. You know the stare
where the kid knows he/she did something wrong but didn’t know how the adult
will react? That one… Without thinking, I raised my voice at her and she
started to cry. I picked up Alina and went to another room to breathe.
There are of course daily reminders for Ariela and I feel
like I constantly remind her not to do certain things like waving her fingers
right in front of Alina’s face/eyes, not yell/breath into her face (give a girl
some space), don’t give her food she can’t eat just yet, don’t pick her up,
etc.
Even though their relationship was pretty much non-existent
in the beginning, it is been wonderful to see it grow over the last few months.
I love watching Alina grin when she sees her sister. I love seeing Ariela teach
Alina how to play with toys. I love them as individuals. I love them as
sisters. I am so thankful to have them both in my life!
